Who should we Marry?
Finding the right life partner isn’t easy. We fall in love a number of times but are they really right for us?
Here is some advice from Abby Rodman from Life Lessons:
Marry someone you love with your whole heart. Someone who excites you emotionally, intellectually and sexually. Someone who “gets” you and isn’t out to change you. Nothing good will ever come of not being true to yourself.
Marry your best friend. Find a person you want to share things with — from the smallest detail of your day to the biggest plans for your life.
Marry someone you want to be with at the end of each day and until the end of your days.
Never get married because you think it’s time; get married because you’ve found the right person — no matter how much time that takes.
Marry someone with a beautiful soul. A person who isn’t afraid to show love or be loved.
Find the person who encourages you to be your best self. When you do, be good to them.
Express your gratitude and love daily to this person who is giving you the precious gift of sharing their life with you.
I am delighted to be a wedding celebrant and when you find that special person I would be happy to marry you!
Rain or Shine
No one wants to think that it will rain on their wedding day however, it is so important to discuss with your Celebrant your wet weather alternatives. Weddings ceremonies are not fun for anyone in the pouring rain. One wedding I was asked to officiate was on top of the mountain when it had been raining all day. Despite having discussed the alternatives they were adamant on the day that it would go ahead in their chosen spot, as the rain continued both guests, wedding party and celebrant were pretty end wet, cold and although they smiled and looked happy to be married it was not what this couple had planned.
The following week a couple had a beautiful setting in a Hotel gardens as the storm approached I was grateful to the Bride who made the call in enough time to have it inside. The hotel had organised a great spot and were even happy to incorporate their little dog in one of the function rooms. We were all thankful to be inside as just as the ceremony began the thunder and the storm hit. The guests said it was one of the most beautiful ceremonies and no one seemed upset at the change of venue.
Ways to Honour Your Parents
It is a beautiful way to show appreciation for your parents by honouring them on your wedding day. They will already play a special role by being there and possibly by helping out financially. Whether your parents are still living or deceased they deserve something a little extra special for all that they have done for you. There is the obvious way of asking their blessing or including them in the recessional. But there are also some other lovely ideas.
1. Walk down the aisle with the same song as your Mother did.
2. Give a rose to your mother and groom’s mother as you walk down the aisle
3. Use the lace from your Mother’s Wedding Dress to tie a bouquet or place it in a locket.
4. Instead of tossing the bouquet dedicate it to your Mother.
5. Ask the Celebrant to give a special mention the Mothers’ or Fathers’ in the Ceremony. The parents could be asked to read a poem or a reading.
6. Dedicate the ceremony to the parents – ‘they have taught us our values and to appreciate what life has to offer, without them we would not be here’.
7. If a parent is deceased light a candle in remembrance or mention them in a pray.
8. Incorporate some family photos either on the cake table or as decoration on a tree A family tree.
9. A special gift could be given to the parents at the reception.
10. The Mothers’ could be asked to be the official witnesses for the ceremony and sign the register.
Dad and Bride Entrance
Getting married on the beautiful Sunshine Coast is a dream for many couples. If you live overseas and are planning such a wedding it is important to find a Wedding Celebrant who carefully explains the process and has a good knowledge of the location.
I was fortunate to meet a lovely couple and their two boys last October who contacted me from the UK about having their ceremony here in Caloundra. The had been together for 22 years and had finally decided on a date to marry but were keen not to have the fuss and expectations that would face them if it were to take place in the UK. As they were not coming over until a few days before their ceremony I informed them that they would need to complete a Notice of Intended Marriage and to find a Notary Public to sign this document before sending it to me. I sent them ideas for their ceremony and a questionnaire. They carefully thought through what was meaningful to them which was so helpful. When I finally met the family I felt I knew so much about them already and few so comfortable in their company.
Many couples are worried about the paperwork. I carefully go through the documents that they will need to bring with them to apply for an official marriage certificate and help them complete all the forms.
Positive Marriage Quotes for Weddings
I really enjoy creating a couples ceremony . I have researched and found many wonderful quotes to include in the Wedding. Here are a few of my favourites:
‘The best thing to hold onto in life is each other’ Audrey Hepburn
‘You meet thousands of people and none of them really touch you, and then you meet one person and your life is changed forever’ from the Movie ‘Love and Other Drugs’
‘A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person’ Mignon Mclauglin
‘Love unlocks windows that weren’t even there before’ Mignon Mclauglin
‘A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers’ Robert Quillen
‘Meeting you was fate, becoming friends was a choice but falling in love was out of my control’ Author Unknown
‘No relationship is all sunshine, but once you’ve learned how to play in the rain, you’ve discovered the secret to surviving the passing storm together’ Author unknown
How to help with a Budget Wedding.
Is your heart set on having your wedding at a restaurant or reception centre? One suggestion is to consider a winter wedding and expect to save a third of the price. A summer package of $120 per head at a wedding reception centre can easily become $80 over winter. Venues and guests are also more available during the cooler months. Or have a Friday wedding. It’s usually cheaper and you and your guests can enjoy a self-imposed long weekend.
If you are happy to have a simple wedding a blanket on the grass with a delicious hamper of goodies in a beautiful setting is an alternative to a grand reception!
A Sand Ceremony is the ideal ritual for a Beach Wedding.
The ceremony can incorporate sand in the couples wedding colours. They take the sand and pour it into a special shadow box that symbolises their unity and coming together . It can then become a meaningful piece of Art in the home. We have so many wonderful beaches on the Sunshine Coast, particularly in Caloundra. It is such a perfect location if you are looking at having a beach wedding.
I can give you many ideas on various rituals as well as poems and readings.
Photo credit Mari Darr – Welch Weddings
Marriage Celebrant on the Sunshine Coast Angela Braby
Wedding Superstitions – Something Old, New, Borrowed, and Blue
I expect that we’ve all heard this common rhyme used when someone gets married, but what does it mean? Apparently wearing “something old” represents the bride’s past, while the “something new” symbolizes the couple’s happy future. The bride is supposed to get her “something borrowed” from someone who is happily married in the hope that some of that person’s good fortune rubs off on her. “Something blue” denotes fidelity and love.
The custom of wearing a veil originated in Rome, when a bride would wear a veil down the aisle to disguise herself from evil spirits who were jealous of her.
The superstition of not seeing each other before the wedding dates back to the time of arranged marriages, when people believed that if the couple saw each other before the ceremony, it would give them a chance to change their minds about the wedding. Today, however, many couples choose to meet up and even have a portrait.